Best First Date Ever? Yes, please!

What makes a great first date?

You just asked a match out and they said yes! Cue the celebration dance.

After the butterflies die down a little, you come face to face with the tough part. What should you two do together to ensure a good time? Depending on where you live, you could have a variety of options — from outdoor activities to a romantic dinner, you may feel like you have too many options! On the other hand, if you live in a smaller town, your options may be more limited. Don’t worry. We have ideas no matter where you live for an unforgettable first date!

Here at Match we recommend an active first date that allows for side-by-side interaction to foster deeper conversations. It’s time to rethink the way you go out. We’re here to help you brainstorm ideas so you can have the best first date ever. If all goes well, that date may turn into your last first date ever.

The Best Type of First Date to Deepen Connection

Coffee and cocktails are popular first dates for a reason — they’re quite literally baked into our culture as ice-breaking social activities. But Match research shows that when you’re on an active date (for example, moving your body instead of seated and stationary), it’s not only easier to chat, but also more likely that you’ll have fun and be your authentic self. Plus, active dates tap into a calmer state for all: Match found that outdoor activities and exercise are the perfect ways for singles find balance and relaxation.

Fun fact: When you go on an active date, you’re also setting yourself up for sideways listening, the kind of thoughtful, uninhibited exchange that happens when you’re next to someone but not looking directly at them (think: really deep car convos).

We think it’s time to rethink the drinks date and start off on a more meaningful foot. “But what do we even do if we don’t have coffee or drinks?” you might be asking. Here’s a comprehensive list of 25 active, engaging first date ideas approved by Match members.

25 active first date ideas approved by Match members

1. Hiking
2. Explore a museum, top to bottom
3. Stroll in the park
4. Rock climbing
5. A long dog walk
6. Kayaking
7. Biking
8. A charity walk or 5K
9. Archery
10. A trip to the farmer’s market
11. Surf lesson
12. Golf simulator
13. Bowling
14. Carnival or fair
15. Volunteering
16. Dance class
17. Go-karting
18. Billiard hall
19. Skiing or snowboarding
20. Obstacle course or ropes course
21. Skating (ice in winter, roller all year round)
22. Aquarium or zoo
23. Ax throwing
24. Tennis (regular or table!)
25. Food truck crawl

Do’s and Don’ts of First Dates

Now that you have some ideas for a great first date, we’ve put together a helpful guide of what to do (and not do!) when you get out there for your first date. Above all, make sure you show up as your authentic self.

Do’s:

1. Be thoughtful when planning the date.

Following our active date ideas list, plan a date that aligns with common interests or a shared love for something local. Whether it’s exploring a nearby park, visiting a local museum, or trying out a new restaurant known for its excellent food, choosing something that excites you both sets a positive tone for the evening. You’re also creating opportunities for meaningful conversations and connections, enhancing the overall experience.

2. Choose a comfortable location. 

First date spots that are fun and relaxed will put you both at ease rather than fancy or high-pressure environments. Check out the active date ideas list above for more inspiration on fun first dates.

3. Keep the mood lighthearted and fun.

We know you take dating seriously, and your date likely does too! That doesn’t mean you need to get into heavy topics or choose an activity that will require more silence than conversation. Try to see this first date as an opportunity to do something playful. It’s great to see someone you’re into having fun. The mood will be infectious, we promise.

4. Be on time. 

Show respect for their time and your interest in the date. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time in the hours leading up to the date so you cut out any chances of lateness.

5. Engage actively in conversation. 

Ask open-ended questions about their favorite activities or local spots. Pay attention to the little things, and ask questions you’d never think to ask — you might discover some beautiful surprises in others (and yourself).

6. Show interest in their point-of-view and opinions.

You may not have all the same passions and interests. That’s not only ok, but actually a good thing! Embrace an attitude of openness. That means throwing out those checklists, pausing on the pros and cons, and surprising yourself by giving someone new a chance.

7. Keep their preferences in mind.

Give yourself a refresher on their favorite interests and hobbies by reviewing their profile. Not only will you be able to plan an activity you both enjoy, but you’ll have even more to talk about! If you’re going out to eat, be sure to check if they have any dietary restrictions.

8. Be prepared for surprises.

While planning is important, leaving room for spontaneity can add excitement to the date. Consider incorporating unexpected elements, such as discovering a hidden gem in your local area or trying a new activity together. These surprises can create memorable moments and make the date feel more adventurous and fun.

9. Compliment them.

Genuine compliments can go a long way in making your date feel appreciated and boosting their confidence. Notice something you genuinely like about their outfit, hairstyle, or even their smile, and let them know. A sincere compliment shows that you’re paying attention and can help create a positive atmosphere right from the start. Remember to keep it genuine and specific rather than generic, as it shows you’re attentive and interested in them. Compliments can also be a great conversation starter and a way to connect on a more personal level early in the date.

10. Enjoy the moment

Focus on having a good time rather than stressing about impressing them. If the conversation is flowing naturally, you can throw out any pre-rehearsed talking points and get to know each other on a more personal level. Remember: this first date could be the first of many dates. You’ll want to begin with a foundation of authenticity and ease.

Don’ts

1. Overwhelm them. 

Elaborate plans or ideas that might be too intense for a first date. Keep it simple with an activity that encourages sideways listening, such as taking a leisurely stroll through a local park, or attending a casual event. These settings provide a relaxed atmosphere conducive to getting to know each other without the pressure of elaborate setups or intense activities. Keeping things simple allows both of you to feel more comfortable and focused on connecting naturally, fostering a positive and enjoyable experience together.

2. Choose a distracting date spot. 

Make sure to avoid any location that might be too noisy or crowded for meaningful conversation (we know that buzzy new café is cute and tempting!) That goes in the opposite direction as well — while you both might love going to the movies, a night at the local theater may be a better second or third date than first.

3. Talk excessively about yourself.

We all get nervous sometimes! It’s best to not try to fill the silence with anecdotes about yourself. While it does happen, make sure the subject of You is not the entire conversation. You’ll want to give your date plenty of chances to contribute to the conversation. This is especially important for those who are more reserved.

4. Forget your manners.

Good etiquette is just as important online as it is off! You don’t have to be overly formal or stuffy, but be sure to be polite. First impressions count. Remember to use respectful language, listen actively, and show appreciation for your date’s company. Simple gestures like holding doors open, offering to pay for the meal (if appropriate), and telling them thank you for meeting up can go a long way in making your date feel valued and respected.

5. Rush through the date.

Don’t schedule a date before something else later in the day. You’ll want to give yourself enough time. While on the date, it can take a while to hit a good groove in conversation when you meet someone for the first time. Just because the ice isn’t immediately broken doesn’t mean the date isn’t worth your time and attention. You never know what can happen when you take your time to savor the experience together.

6. Bring up sensitive topics. 

Discussion about past relationships or controversial issues could dampen the mood. If you go on future dates, there will be plenty of time to get to the deeper conversation topics. On the first date, it’s all about having fun and getting to know each other!

7. Pressure them.

The first date can be nerve-wracking as it is. Make sure to keep things light. Avoid pressing your date for more than they’re comfortable with, whether it’s sharing personal details or moving the date along too quickly.

8. Be distracted by your phone. 

There’s never been a better opportunity to put the “Do Not Disturb” setting on your phone to use! Put your phone away when you arrive to your first date. This is a clear signal that you’re invested in getting to know the other person and don’t want any distractions.

By following these tips, you can create a great first date experience that allows both of you to relax, have fun, and potentially pave the way for future dates.

Your Very Own Dating Checklist

Still feeling stuck? We put together some more tips to get you inspired to get out there. Make sure to download the Match app for even more dating essentials.

• Do a quick inventory of your favorite activities (Ex. walking your dog, go to an art exhibition, bowling). Think about which ones would be low-lift fun with a future date!
• Think of a new date idea you’d love to go on (bonus points if it’s active, i.e. a park stroll) and make plans with someone new. From your inventory above, think of a new go-to date idea.
• Ask someone out on that active date.
• First date going well? Think about intro-ing them to something you love and vice versa. You love baking? Take a class together. Do you like to read? Take part in a literary event together, like a book signing or poetry reading. They love rock climbing? To the gym you go!
• Further hone your skills with our 72 Hours experience. It takes you from app to date in just 3 days!
• Find a Match Event local to you and keep the momentum going. You can stay up-to-date about Match Events by checking the app and the website.

What else do I need to do to have a fun first date?

The first step to having a great first date is showing up as yourself. You’re more likely to have a connection if you aren’t molding yourself to fit what you think the other person wants to see. You want to date someone who wants to be with the real you.

Deeper connections require you showing up as your most authentic self. Honesty and curiosity will be among the best tools you can bring to your first date. Lean into authenticity and show up as who you really are. Don’t be afraid to get vulnerable with others — it’s your one-way ticket to building deep, lasting connections.

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